Still hunting for ideas on how to talk to girls?
Well, here be two nuggets of wisdom for you today:
There are very few set rules in this life, and it just so happens that one of the most toxic people I had to hit the ejector button on was one of my more successful friends.
I‘m writing you this, because if you happen to be an entrepreneur, you’ve no doubt heard that you need to surround yourself with apex performers in order to succeed.
While that’s true for the most part, there’s absolutely no need to surround yourself with sociopaths and assholes in general to get your game operating at maximum levels.
How does this apply to talking to girls?
First let’s translate my (now former) friend’s success to female beauty. It’s what you aspire to acquire (whether you admit it or not).
One of the leading reasons men lose their meat-raisins at the prospect of talking to a very beautiful woman is that they assume her only interest is in men who look like they belong on the covers of romance books.
How so wrong they are.
If only every man had the opportunity to visit Montreal, where the ratio of average looking men paired up to lavish babes is truly inspiring.
To borrow some wisdom from the now extinct Roissy:
The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women.
His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire.
This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle — through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell.
It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on. Instead, say to yourself “she’s interesting” or “she might be worth getting to know”.
Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren’t fucking. Turn off that part of your brain that wants to put them on pedestals.
Further advanced training to reach this state of unawed Zen transcendence is to sleep with many MANY attractive women (try to avoid sleeping with a lot of ugly women if you don’t want to regress). Soon, a Jedi lover you will be.
The other day, I had a chat with my good buddy Nelson.
We were talking about how he hangs with guys who always talk a good game about women, and then, when he‘d go out to the bars with these buddies, who love to score with babes (according to their inebriated posturing, anyway), remain at their own tables, butts firmly glued to the seat.
That type of guy always made me laugh.
Nelson on the other hand, is 5’4″, not a bad looking dude, and he doesn’t allow rejection to get between himself and scoring some digits.
He won’t stay at his seat and hope fate sends a line-up of shaft-starved beauties scurrying to his table.
Yes, Nelson does get shot down and I’m always the first to laugh at him when it happens.
However, just like a major league batter going through a slump, give him enough at-bats and he will eventually connect with the ball and drive it out into the field.
If you feel you’ve been slumping lately, take a look at this.
Without getting all woo-woo hippy-dippy on you, there’s a lot to be said about how mindset affects your performance.
If your head’s in the wrong place, you need to get your mind re-centered and THIS is the solution that’ll help you do it.
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